I agree. Mods that affect the same aspect indeed conflict with each other. Suppose you downloaded a horse armour pack and another nod that makes the horse a unicorn (Just an example). You may get a conflict betweent the two, leading to unwanted circumstances.
In such cases, always keep only one mod active of each type!!!
Read what I have written in the brackets. Just an example. I played Oblivion 1-2 years ago, so I do not remember.
I did not take you as hostile friend. You are infromative, thats good. I just replied, not offended.