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Dancer  posted on Nov 05, 2009 4:31:11 AM - Report post

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People love the idea that their lives some how replicate that of their favorite fictional character or the external perception that they live the life of a mysterious tortured creature who has been through so much, you simply can't understand. There is a part of us that greedily utilizes and exaggerates the trials of our past, trivial or no, as some sort of profile generator to those around us.

One of the most common appearances of this is the forever timeless and clearly reasonable statement, "I have been hurt so much in the past, it is difficult to trust people and let them into my heart".

The usual client for this outlook on life and human interaction seems to be those under the age of 16. Obviously, there has been a cataract of failed three week relationships and "mean" friends which has convinced them that social optimism is simply a shroud from the real and cold world we live in. Having a failed interaction with one person should usually imply the motive to try again.

For everyone else.
It makes no sense to push people away simply because your past experience with some other completely different people have not worked out to your expectations. It would be the equivalent of buying an ice-cream, not really liking that particular flavour and concluding that in order to avoid future disappointment, you will give up on ice-cream all together. Much like ice-cream, interacting and bonding with fellow human beings is the greatest experience available to us as an advanced species.

There are many many other forms of over dramatised psychological self-importance that exist. To name a few,
You will never understand me/no one understands me
I can't believe you would talk about me behind my back
You don't know what I have been through
No one can change me

It is through my personal observation that the people most involved in this bizarre self-medicated phenomenon seem to be fans of Anime. This popular media form is riddled with a ridiculously over dramatic perspective on absolutely everything related to the characters involved. Everyone cries, everyone breaks down under the weight of how important everything is and everyone is drawn to a point of human perfection, this adds to why people desperately try and be associated with them.

Here is an example of my point: Link

Conclusion: Your personality is not an intricately woven tapestry of struggle and strive. Bad things simply happen, its a basic part of life, everyone has them. You are not in a movie. Your actions are not witnessed by an invisible panel of your fictional idols. Complaining about yourself makes you boring. You are not complicated. Things are only as serious as you allow them to be. Stop it.

 
QueenNic  posted on Nov 05, 2009 4:35:19 AM - Report post

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Was this post actually necessary?
 
Dancer  posted on Nov 05, 2009 4:36:42 AM - Report post

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yours? No, no really. That's ok though, I don't mind.
 
QueenNic  posted on Nov 05, 2009 4:40:06 AM - Report post

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I was obviously referring to yours.

Just leave people be. If people want to be melodramatic and all "Leave me alone you don't understand me" then who are you to tell them to stop? It doesn't actually affect you.

And yes, I've been melodramatic. I'm growing up and I've stopped. So I'm not being that much of a hypocrite.

Then again, I can think of someone a lot (if not all) of this applies to, and I hold a different opinion his behaviour.

 
Dancer  posted on Nov 05, 2009 4:50:16 AM - Report post

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Your response to my topic indicates that perhaps you haven't grown up as much as you like to think. Irrational defensiveness and anger is hardly a sign of maturity. This topic wasn't about you.

Society is based on the healthy principle of not "leaving people be". A good example of this are prisons and mental asylums.

 
QueenNic  posted on Nov 05, 2009 5:02:59 AM - Report post

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quote:
originally posted by Dancer

Your response to my topic indicates that perhaps you haven't grown up as much as you like to think. Irrational defensiveness and anger is hardly a sign of maturity. This topic wasn't about you.

Society is based on the healthy principle of not "leaving people be". A good example of this are prisons and mental asylums.

I never said it was about me. I pointed out that I am no longer as melodramatic should someone point out my many dramatic posts etc.

I am not being irrationally defensive. I really think this is unnecessary. When you consider the amount of people that go through melodramatic phases and then get over themselves, none of this even needs saying. Teenagers are and always will be melodramatic. It comes with thinking we know everything and not being able to do anything. Those first three week relationships that go to hell will always result in "he/she broke my heart I want to die". Realising stupidity helps people grow up.

Maybe society is based on that, but this is the internet. It doesn't matter if a person acts melodramatic. You can just ignore them and not say anything about it. You don't even have to read what they say.

Also, saying all of this will probably make extremely melodramatic people even worse.

 
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Dancer  posted on Nov 05, 2009 6:31:08 AM - Report post

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quote:
originally posted by Dancer

Your response to my topic indicates that perhaps you haven't grown up as much as you like to think. Irrational defensiveness and anger is hardly a sign of maturity. This topic wasn't about you.

Society is based on the healthy principle of not "leaving people be". A good example of this are prisons and mental asylums.

I never said it was about me. I pointed out that I am no longer as melodramatic should someone point out my many dramatic posts etc.

I am not being irrationally defensive. I really think this is unnecessary. When you consider the amount of people that go through melodramatic phases and then get over themselves, none of this even needs saying. Teenagers are and always will be melodramatic. It comes with thinking we know everything and not being able to do anything. Those first three week relationships that go to hell will always result in "he/she broke my heart I want to die". Realising stupidity helps people grow up.

Maybe society is based on that, but this is the internet. It doesn't matter if a person acts melodramatic. You can just ignore them and not say anything about it. You don't even have to read what they say.

Also, saying all of this will probably make extremely melodramatic people even worse.

Either way, I suppose the people who reply negatively to it are the people it is aimed at.

Thanks for that image L (house), I suppose people shouldn't listen to me but then again, maybe you should.

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