General Discussions

I'm not looking for advice by the way, just want to get your opinion on the concept of a open relationship in general.

I've already made up my mind and just want address acouple of things.



1. She was the one who suggested it but I was thinking about it long before she said anything, I just thought it would look bad if I said it first, we are VERY VERY similar people in the way we view life(almost identical). Plus Our agreement is only temporearly while we sort our lifes out since we are at very different parts of our lifes right now, but want to be together so badly on that deeper level. Its hard to explain.


My personal opinion is that regaurdless of how unaceptable it may be viewed by society, and although in most case they are bound to end up a distaster there will be times when it can and will work, I truely hope this is one of those times. I'm not the type to get insucure over that crap, but I told myself I will not sleep with anyone else unless she does it first.

By nature it does not work very well since humans do feel jealousy, vengeance, and other negative emotions when they are not the ones getting attention. Does not mean it is not impossible to work with though. The key concept is being able to give and receive love equally from everyone and if everyone involved can accept that, then more power to them.

Should be noted that for each additional person added to the relationship weave, the more complex and harder it will be to work with an open relationship.

Though from that, the problem is stemming from crossing a line with customer relationships. Traditionally getting into a relationship with someone you work with is not good since it has so much potential to blow up in your face and damage your career as well as your emotions. It's easy to have a client/trainer relationship and it's easy to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but it is not easy to have both at the same time.

[Edited by Neo7, 10/23/2011 11:28:23 AM]