got them all working.
what i did was uninstalled my AV (Avira, which was expired anyway) actually bought a new one (McAfee) installed it then turned real time scanning off. Uninstalled all my codecs and some iphone programs (to get stuff of youtube and convert movies onto my iphone) then re-installed my codecs but only
- K-lite codec pack 700 mega
- klcp update 704
- Combined Community Codec Pack 10-10-2010
in that order.
i'm completely chilled now and not freaking anymore
Cheers to Pwiz for his help.
hope you enjoy the game and the trainer.