People love the idea that their lives some how replicate that of their favorite fictional character or the external perception that they live the life of a mysterious tortured creature who has been through so much, you simply can't understand. There is a part of us that greedily utilizes and exaggerates the trials of our past, trivial or no, as some sort of profile generator to those around us.
One of the most common appearances of this is the forever timeless and clearly reasonable statement, "I have been hurt so much in the past, it is difficult to trust people and let them into my heart".
The usual client for this outlook on life and human interaction seems to be those under the age of 16. Obviously, there has been a cataract of failed three week relationships and "mean" friends which has convinced them that social optimism is simply a shroud from the real and cold world we live in. Having a failed interaction with one person should usually imply the motive to try again.
For everyone else.
It makes no sense to push people away simply because your past experience with some other completely different people have not worked out to your expectations. It would be the equivalent of buying an ice-cream, not really liking that particular flavour and concluding that in order to avoid future disappointment, you will give up on ice-cream all together. Much like ice-cream, interacting and bonding with fellow human beings is the greatest experience available to us as an advanced species.
There are many many other forms of over dramatised psychological self-importance that exist. To name a few,
You will never understand me/no one understands me
I can't believe you would talk about me behind my back
You don't know what I have been through
No one can change me
It is through my personal observation that the people most involved in this bizarre self-medicated phenomenon seem to be fans of Anime. This popular media form is riddled with a ridiculously over dramatic perspective on absolutely everything related to the characters involved. Everyone cries, everyone breaks down under the weight of how important everything is and everyone is drawn to a point of human perfection, this adds to why people desperately try and be associated with them.
Here is an example of my point: Link
Conclusion: Your personality is not an intricately woven tapestry of struggle and strive. Bad things simply happen, its a basic part of life, everyone has them. You are not in a movie. Your actions are not witnessed by an invisible panel of your fictional idols. Complaining about yourself makes you boring. You are not complicated. Things are only as serious as you allow them to be. Stop it.
I'm going against my better judgment here...
Dancer, your own post condemns you as the very thing you seek to eliminate. From what I read, you think that these over-emotional children are exaggerating the bad things in their lives, and placing themselves on a pedestal. Yet, here you are, setting yourself apart as an emotional superman, one capable of shrugging off a three-week bad relationship. You've set yourself apart just like they have.
Also, you don't recognize those that have actually had traumatic events happen to them. Are you grouping a bad relationship with having your deepest secret revealed multiple times? Surely, if someone was lied to by people they trusted, it would create an aversion to trust, as one would associate it with mental distress (read: mental pain).
Yes, bad thing happen. If a parent loses a child, should they just shake it off? If a child loses a parent, should they just get over it?
Everyone is different, and everyone will handle things with their own style, and at their own pace. Making everyone in your own image will not fix things.
I am clearly not denying the fact that bad things happen which people may not be able to shrug off but, my topic is not a generalisation. It is aimed exclusively at those who exaggerate and advertise their problems and drama.
Yes, I can shrug off a three week relationship.
You clarified a point and said you aren't as petty as the people who are doing what you don't like. Congratulations. No contest there.
Now, are you going to respond to the rest of my post?
Edit: Actually, now I have read your response properly, I would say that I have answered everything that needs a response.
[Edited by Dancer, 11/6/2009 9:25:08 AM]
Edit 2: I am not trying to make everyone like me, I am merely providing thoughts and opinions to a subject. An individuals participation in a debate regarding a certain topic is not to convince everyone to be more like them but to sway people into thinking alternatively about a certain issue.
[Edited by Dancer, 11/6/2009 9:27:21 AM]
But you are trying to make people like you.
You're calling them petty and immature. Everything else you've said is either harping on the fact that they are petty or immature, or offering your solution with nothing to back it up. Who's to say it's a better way to live? It's belittling to the people who actually do this, and I know a lot of them come to this website. What you've done is point out everything wrong with the others and held up your own opinion with no supporting evidence. The only real argument I've seen from you is, "My opinion isn't as bad as yours."
Also, you didn't respond to, "Dancer, your own post condemns you as the very thing you seek to eliminate. From what I read, you think that these over-emotional children are exaggerating the bad things in their lives, and placing themselves on a pedestal. Yet, here you are, setting yourself apart as an emotional superman, one capable of shrugging off a three-week bad relationship. You've set yourself apart just like they have." My thoughts here are that you're saying you're the opposite, then setting yourself apart just as they have, albeit in a different manner, essentially saying that your way is the way to go. That's what I mean by trying to make everyone like you.
Offer some concrete facts as to why your opinion is the way to go, and I'll be happy to keep talking about this. You bring up some interesting issues with today's culture that not enough people are aware of.
[Edited by Zeth_Durron, 11/6/2009 11:18:45 PM]
Was this post actually necessary?
About as necessary as your social experiment topic where you called everyone a bunch of sheep
I think this is a good topic, and I had thought some similar things.
Those with fake drama are quite boring, and give people with real issues a bad rep.
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