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Here's what I think:
If you guys spend a lot of time together and she is also hanging out with this guy, I don't see a reason to panic. However, if she is blowing you off to go be with him constantly, then I would suspect something. I would just talk to her about it if it really bothers you that much.

Thanx a lot everyone on your opinions.
i've came to the conclusion to make a deal, i stop hating him and be nice and then she won't get mad at me when i talk to my close friend who is a girl,lol.

anyways heres the background story...
me and her have been dating for eight months and before i used to be friends with the guy, in fact we played in a band together, then he backstabbed me and my band, so that ended our first friendship. But the second time was worse, i found out that behind my back he was talking about me and trying to get with her even when he had a girlfriend whom he supposely loves, and that was the time i came so close to breaking his face (and believe me i know i would win). But after awhile i cooled down and i told her it was either me or him because she still wanted to talk to him "just as a friend"....but then she started crying and told me i wasn't being very caring to put her to that decision, but she ended up obeying it for about three days then she striaght up told me that i wasn't gonna stop her from talking to him, so since then i compromised and said see him every now and then and text here and there, but lately she wants to see him every week, so yeah. But i do spend more time with her than anyone else...so i guess its okay.....


can i get some male and female perspectives now the whole story is drawn?

Overall...your story really doesn't make much sense since you left out too much details about the first backstabbing and the second one is severely grammatically incorrect.

ugh
okay first time we were friends he lied to me over a span of three months acting like he was some serious member in my band, but really he was putting together his own band behind my back. (has nothing to do with my GF)


second time he was telling my girlfriend that she doesn't deserve to be treated the way i treat her, even when he doesn't know **** about what goes on between me and her. And on top of that he spilled that he was falling in love with her and would leave his girlfriend (who he wants to marry,lol) for her if she would just leave me....he even had my GF's ringtone as the one that goes "and baby i will wait for you..." by elliot something

are you stupid?
i would never slap her

Ok...the first time seems a something that you can let go.

The second one sounds a bit more complex to simply "let go". Overall I would sit down and talk to her. Tell her the kind of person the guy really is and notify her how he is willing to give up someone he was intending to marry to go for someone else. A guy like that cannot be trusted if he is not honest with any of his activities.

The main point of the day here is communication.

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lolz all the gurlz are liek "omg y u tlk liek dat?!!?"

<_<
Your perspective of girls is too biased. I'm biased for guys. There's only one person who could ever solve this type of problem...

I do not intend to have a relationship in my life...ever.