I believe this is being talked about on the Bioware main Community channel. I believe they are looking into it. But how long it will take I am not sure.
In terms of a real life scenario, imagine 5 lanes of heavy vehicle traffic trying to get through a 2 lane junction.
Why do people always say things they have no first hand information about.
Nothing wrong with the database servers at all, and they are not cheap.
They have several Dual Xeon 5620 servers, 24GB ram each, with a SAS15K RAID10, more than capable of handling mass connections. Infact the servers are better than Blizzards WoW world/map servers.
The main problem from the lag is from the bandwith available which isn't unlimited.