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I think that is the best advice that I have seen on this topic.

Well Foxxie-kun is a sweetie. =3 I love him.

And, yes, I forgot who said it (<.<) but I do tend to talk about complete strangers about my ideas. Isn't that why we have chat/messageboards??

I have had another relationship that also failed. Maybe I just wasn't doing something right, idk. And Foxxie, I don't hide behind a mask. Of anything. If you can't accept me, then fine. I hate make-up btws. I'm going to contradict myself when I say that girls who wear make-up wear it because they don't think they're beautiful without it. I do not see myself as a beautiful young gal.

At least I have experience with dating, right? My friend Mike always tells me that I just throw myself at guys. I don't, but I can be a huge flirt. Which has led me to knowing more guys than I do girls. A large number of them have come to grow on me.

Okay, so I have a shortish true story and some follow-up questions for you to help out my friend Jeremy and I :

Jeremy was a new guy at this dojo I go to. He's a black belt in tai kwon do from a club a little ways away from me. So, I start hesitantly talking to him, getting to know him better. We trained a lot together, and I swear the guy acts like he's a [stereotypical--I do not aim to offend ANYONE--] gay guy over half the time XD But he always made me laugh. So, I was dating a guy named Josh at the time, and when there was a tournament up in PA, I went mostly because tournaments are FUN and to see Jeremy. Well, he knows that I know that he likes me, and I've grown to like him. But he wanted me to choose between him and Josh, and I couldn't answer. I didn't know what to say. So he figured I picked Josh. Josh dumped me harshly back in May. So I asked out Jeremy about 2 weeks later, when I had gotten over it. I gave him a week to think about it, and I won't lie, I kept pestering him about his answer. He kept saying if I made him answer when he wasn't ready he was gonna say no. Well, about a week later, he says no. Now, I'm sitting there thinking WTF?? Like, really? And guess what? A day later, A DAY, his sig says (I love Courtney<3) And I'm thinking, "What is this guy's problem??" I ended up learning from his closest friend Ian that Jeremy has been in a relationship with all of his past gfs at least 4 or 5 times by now. I was shocked, and I asked why that was. He said simply because Jeremy just loses interest, and that once his realtionship with Courtney ended (again) He'd come back to me after a while.

Q: 1. If his relationship DOES end, and Jeremy comes back, should I take him?

Q: 2. How could you possibly just randomly lose interest in a person, then want to get back together with them? For 4 or 5 times for a few different girls?? What is he trying to do, sample a buffet??

Q: 3. Have any of you guys done something like what Jeremy tried to pull on me?

Thank you for reading this and [possibly--hey, I don't know your actions] taking the time to answer. I greatly appreciate it.

Q1 - From what you have said, don't even go near him
Q2 - Mental illness
Q3 - No, I am a bit more sane

Q1 As above.
Q2 Not definitely. I know quite a few guys who have done that, though not quite that many times or with as many girls. I have no idea why. I've heard the excuse 'I still like you but I'm not ready for a relationship right now' more times than I care to mention.
Q3 I'm a girl. Not that girls won't do that kind of thing too, I've also seen that happen. But I wouldn't, it just seems selfish and pointless.

I agree with both of you, and Shibby, your response sounds like something my friend Mike would say haha.

I agree, jrocker; girls would not do that, especially me. That is selfish, and it is indeed pointless because what are you going to do when the time comes to choose someone out of 5 people you've had an off/on relationship with? If you ask me, they're annoying.