Sounds similar to me. Give him the space he needs...trying to approaching guys like me just makes us in an even worse state. I can't guarantee anything but let him make the first move (and make sure to notice it as it will most likely be a very minute notice).
Apparently I must have missed something. I have no idea who Hypergamer is.
But I would have to see the original "joke" to make my decision. However, if PWizard did the IP ban, I seriously doubt it will be overturned. His stories that he did send to me were a bit humorous yet disturbing at the same time.
Oh wait...he made fun of Instant Noodles (Ramen)...yeah he can stay banned.